Most people who step into a
divorce have just one other person on their minds: their spouse. This is pretty
understandable, as the two spouses might be butting heads in the best
case scenario. It is crucial, however, not to overlook the other members
of the family that will be directly impacted by how the divorce pans out
and finalizes, especially young children.
How to Help Your Kids Deal with Divorce
Children do not want to see their parents go their separate ways in any
circumstance. For particularly young kids, the concept of divorce doesn’t
even make sense and so it frightens them. For teenagers already dealing
with heightened stress and angst, it can be another burden they just aren’t
prepared to carry.
If you want to do all you can to help your kids through your divorce, remember
Stay connected: Above all else, you cannot get so wrapped up in your divorce procedure
that you forget your kids are there. Save as much time as you normally
spend with them as possible to show that while things are changing, the
groundwork of your parenting will remain the same. Do not go overboard
and swamp them with your attention, as this can push them away, especially
if they are older.
Controlled honesty: You should never lie to your kids when you need to build their trust now
more than ever. But that doesn’t mean they need
every detail about why you are divorcing. Some matters will be incredibly private
– don’t share them. The younger your kids are, the more you
can simplify your reasoning without making things up.
Foresight: Talk about the most likely outcome of your divorce and how it pertains
to your children, such as
visitation, and living situations. Shaping a rough idea of what is to come on the
horizon can make the transition that much easier for children. Just try
to avoid making promises you won’t be likely to keep.
One of the sources that stresses out children during divorce is a general
sense of uncertainty. If you are not confident with how your divorce is
proceeding, your kids won’t be, either. To help remove the unknown
and move forward with a positive outlook, talk to our Daytona Beach divorce
lawyers at Buckmaster & Ellzey. With more than 20+ years of collective
legal experience, we have built a reputation for providing compassionate
legal assistance backed by unmatched knowledge of divorce law.
Want to know more? Call 888.785.6548 and set up a
case evaluation with our team.